Happy Mother's Day Mamas! I look back on these five years and feel so thankful that God picked me to be the mom of my littles. What an adventure it has been! If there were things I could have told new mom me it would be this:
What you will come to understand is mommy hood is as much about you growing up as it is the kids growing up. Why? Because you cannot give someone something you do not have. If you want them to know who God is, you have to know Him first. They will hear the stories and the words you share from the Bible, but know the reality of it's truth in the way that you live your life.
God will show you that if you want your kids to have confidence, discipline, patience, gentleness, kindness, gratitude you must have it first. They aren’t listening to what you want them to be, but modeling who you are. They are always watching and learning. They see how you love. They see how you forgive others. They will learn how to ask for forgiveness from you. You'll be the one to show them that when mommy makes a mistake she will say sorry with no ifs no but.
From here until forever you will hear anyone and everyone give you advice on the “best” way to be a mom… What I want you to know is, YOU know the best. God has given you that very precious little child who is like NO ONE else in this world. He knows that YOU have everything that child needs to grow up. You will know her like no one else does, you will know her strengths and weaknesses. You see her struggles and you will know how to help her as long as you stay close to Him. You have the right balance of love and discipline to raise her up.
But there will be times when you will feel lost, guilty, overwhelmed, feeling as though you aren’t enough or doing enough. Go to her. Your mentor. That one mom who has raised her kids who are now mighty men of faith. She fought similar battles as you, she knows your struggle. Instead of listening to all the voices and wandering through the internet, let her pour her wisdom on you. She may not understand what it looks like to raise a kid in these times, but she understands what it means to be a mom and a wife who draws her strength and knowledge from the Lord. Learn from her example. Have confidence.
Be teachable and be humble because the pressure of perfection will make you crazy. Be honest with your shortcomings and use these moments as opportunities for change. Never stop learning and striving to be the woman God wants you to be. Pick up and read every book you can and learn from those who have come before you. When frustration arises because you aren't getting the result you envisioned, keep planting. Try something different, something new, plant a different seed.
Know that over the years you will fail. Fail miserably at times, but that is okay! Let it be okay. Don’t beat yourself up. Get up and move on. You don’t have to be a perfect mom to be a good mom. You are a good mom. Always remember that God’s grace is sufficient and He is there where you fall short. Better yet he has surrounded you with people who love you and are there to walk this mommy hood journey with you! What a blessing it will be. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Don't be afraid to share your insecurities and get encouragement. The people around you are there for YOU.
Most importantly new mom I want you to stop and look at your husband. I know this baby has a lot of needs but don’t ever lost sight of your marriage. I cannot express what a precious gift a healthy marriage is to those growing little ones. They are standing on the stability that you are building. Make him as much a priority as everything else in your life. After all he is your first baby.
Take heart new mom, you have a great responsibility but you aren't alone. God is always with you and so are those loved ones. From here until forever, you will always be a mom and even when those littles grow up, take comfort in knowing they will always need you.